Thursday, 12 April 2012
Thursday, 2 February 2012
i recently met a woman after a concert; she's a friend of a friend. we're both from the same city & were getting on well, when there came a point when we both just stopped talking & i didn't know how to restart the conversation.
Hi Rebecca I have been married 30 yrs next month and love my wife more like a sister these days. I don't know why but our sex life is practically non existent these days. Only the other day my wife came onto me when it suited her and I just lost it
oh no! Have you aplogised to her for 'losing it'? The air definitely needs to be cleared otherwise next time you make an attempt at intimacy she will reject you and she's unlikely to try again, so the wedge between you will get bigger. She was trying to bring the intimacy back, and now she will be feeling hurt, rejected and undesired. Try to put yourself in her shoes and think how you would feel. I'm guessing that you don't have children at home anymore, so there is no excuse for not making quality time for each other. Are you leading seperate lives? Are you still physicaly attracted to your wife? If you can tell me a bit more I can better advise you...
Thursday, 8 December 2011
Tuesday, 6 December 2011
Monday, 14 November 2011
I started dated this girl about 9 months ago, a month in she tells me she escorted. I'm in love with her but for some reasons when I look at her all I picture is another dude inside her its horrible and killing me! what do I do?
Most people have a sexual past...do you think this way with women in general (ie picture other 'dudes' inside her) or is her sexual past only an issue because of her job as an escort? I personally don't see why you should view it differently to a girl who has multiple partners that hasn't escorted. It's in her past and she's been very open with you. If you care for her and want to make it work you need to put her past job where it should be - in the past, and move forwards. It's not very nice for her if you are thinking about her with other men when you are having sex with her, because I can guarentee she won't be thinking about her past clients when she's having sex with you - she will be thinking about you.
Thursday, 10 November 2011
Do you consider yourself to be happier now than when you were escorting? Also interested to know how you define happiness, and what you think the key ingredients are to achieving it, from your own experiences. Are sex, money & 'success' key ingredients?
I am generally a very happy person, and when I was escorting yes I was happy with my profession, and I am equally happy now on my exciting journey since I finished escorting. Everyone has different values/desires you can't define one formular that will make everyone happy because everyone is different.
Tuesday, 8 November 2011
have you ever had sex so bad that when you were done you thought (or said out loud) "why did i bother?"
yup, but also had some great sex too so it balances out
Which of Santa's lists would you prefer to be on naughty or nice?
naughty for sure. my mum still makes us stockings. bless :) they're not naughty though we get satsumas, nuts, socks and little toys lol
Saturday, 22 October 2011
have you ever done something you didn't like or didn't want to do because you "just need the money"?
oh yea! all the time when I was on minimum wage. never again
Wednesday, 19 October 2011
My theory is that she offloads all of her guilt on to me and she uses me to give her a alibi, when in fact she's meeting up with her lover! I'm friends with her foremost but I don't want to get caught up in her lies. Should I subtly end our friendship?
if you still want to be friends tell her you are no longer going to be her alibi, will not cover for her and you don't want to hear anything about her cheating or problems with her husband - however from what you have said she sounds quite selfish, so maybe ending subtly would be best. you don't want her to drag you down with her problems because from what you have said it seems like a one way friendship
I've recently joined a dating website and stated I want a relationship but responses from men are clearly after 1 thing!I've been on 2 dates and their profile/pictures looked great but in real life nothing like their profiles. Where an I going wrong?!
let me guess... plenty of fish? are you paying? if you don't pay for dating sites then you won't have any serious people looking to date... that goes for the free option on match too. have you tried http://www.mysinglefriend.com ?
Tuesday, 18 October 2011
A work colleague whom I also socialise with outside of work has confided in me that she's having an affair. She blames her husbands lack of interest in her for the reason why. Her husband is a good friend of mine.should I tell him or keep my mouth shut?!
sounds like she wants you to tell him! why on earth would she tell you if she knows you're friends with him? Hmmm, difficult one. these things can end up back firing and you can be painted as the bad guy. I'd tread carefully. are you closer to him or her?
Hi Rebecca. Do you relationship advice for girls as well as guys? I often get my female friends asking me for advice and at times I really struggle what to tell them!
having worked prodominently with men for about 13 years I know lot about them, so yes I can certainly advise women. what sort of questions do you get asked?
Do you miss the 'buzz' of being an escort, and having sex on a regular basis? I guess if you are happy within yourself, you don't really need the 'buzz' or constant sex. Has it taken a while for you to adjust in how you relate to people?
I didn't get a buzz from the sex but the lifestyle gave me a buzz, and yes sometimes I miss that. I went without sex for a year and half when i finished escorting. I enjoy sex very much, but I wanted to prove to myself that i could go without. I don't get enjoyement from one night stands there has to be a deeper connection there.
when you get negative comments or "hate" from someone, do you find it easier to easier to brush away comments that come from men or women?
haters are haters male or female makes no difference, I don't let them bother me, haters make me stronger :)
Tuesday, 4 October 2011
Monday, 3 October 2011
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many dating sites prohibit users from posting information like e-mail addressed and in some cases even real names. if you've joined a site but don't want to pay to be a long-term, or even short term, subscriber, do you advocate trying to skirt this rule?
no I don't advise skirting this rule, it's there for a reason - to protect people. There's lots of weirdos out there.
You said that being an ex-escort puts men off. Personally, I've only ever had sex with prostitutes, so a prostitute girlfriend or wife would be perfect for me. Don't give up, there must be loads of men who like prostitutes so much, they want to marry one.
I'm very happy and content as I am. many friends that I had in the biz were married or had partners that were supportive of their job. I no longer escort and have a number of exciting projects on the go. Everyone has a past and skeletons in the closet, it's just mine are in the open :)
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