Grooming tips for single men...

I was inspired by one of my regular single gents to compile this list... and btw no these do not all apply to him! Lol

If you think about what you like for a woman, then just apply the same to yourself for example - if you appreciate the smell of a woman who wears perfume then...

- Make sure YOU are always smelling fresh with aftershave or some sort of fragrance, but not too much! :)

-Keep all facial, nasal and ear hair trimmed.

- Don't think 'I don't have a girlfriend so I don't have the make the effort' because if you think like that you'll never get one! Unfortunately in this world looks do count. You don't have to be the best looking bloke but you do need to look like you look after yourself and take care and pride in your appearance.

- Make sure your hair (if you have it) and glasses (if you wear them) suit your face. If you're not sure, just ask. Go to a proper hairdressers and speak to a stylist, and an optician regarding glasses.

- Clothing is difficult for men, especially single ones. Men tend to go for 'safe' options which make them blend in, and depending on colours you can also make yourself look washed out. If you have greyish hair and pale skin, don't go for greyish clothes and dull browns because they will wash you out even more. Go for colours like light to mid blue or even navy. Noone expects men to be an expert in the field of clothing, but it depends how much you actually want to find a special lady. If you're not having any luck then you should at least make sure that your appearence is sorted before you move onto building confidence etc... because once you look the part, you will start to feel the part, then when you feel it it's easier to act it!

I know men don't like asking for anything but you need to get over it! Lol. Shops like House of Frazer all have personal shoppers available and it's a free service. If you book an appointment they will talk through any clothes you want to buy and help advise you on a new look. Don't say 'no' to everything they pick up. It's good to try things you wouldn't normally try - you will be surprised. Women are so good at shopping because we do ask advice and we do listen to what other people think, so we learn fast what suits us.

Look in mens magazines for ideas or take note of which celebrities styles you like. It's a good starting point if you get a personal shopper to take some ideas with you.

- Look tidy. I hate seeing slightly over weight men with oversized clothing all untucked. This makes you look bigger! The right sized shirt tucked in looks much nicer and will make you look trimmer! Just call me Gok Wan :))) hehe

- Stand up tall don't slouch and walk confidentally. This will be easier if you get yourself a style and you feel comfortable with what you are wearing.

- And don't forget the shoes women as you know are obsessed with shoes and we do take note of a mans shoes.

.... I guarentee if you take note of these tips women will start to take notice of you :)

Amber and Bea turn heads at Nottingham races!

Amber and I had a wonderful day at Nottingham Ladies day. We planned to go quite a few weeks in advance, but I'd been mega busy with various things and hadn't even decided what to wear. Amber is super organised and had arranged all her outfit in plenty of time. A week before I still had nothing to wear when I found out Amber was wearing a hat!!! So I had a mad panic to get an outfit together, complete with hat. I russled up a Cavalli flower print dress that had been hiding in my wardrobe, and then I went on an internet mission to track down hat hire in Nottingham.

I found a lovely lady whose house I went to on the Friday before to look at her collection and thankfully she found me just the hat! It cost me £20 to hire. Bargain!

We both had our barnets done in the morning, and after a long leisurely get ready we went for our pre-races lunch and champgne. The food was delicious and we washed it down with a chilled bottle of rose.

As soon as we arrived at the races we were approached by a photographer wanting to take our photo for a magazine, so we posed with our champagne in the sunshine :)

We bet on most of the races, and won just one race each. Amber and I betting when we are tipsy don't make a good team - remember the chips we left on the table in Vegas? :) Well Amber forgot to check her tickets until she saw me doing it as I put each next bet on, and thank goodness she started checking because she'd won!

Lots of people said we should be in the best dressed competition, but we hovvered around and didn't get noticed by whoever it was that was looking out. How rude! :)

We had such a fun day. It ended up with us sharing a taxi into Nottingham to go to a couple of bars before calling it a night.

My court case...

Unfortunately I lost my case in court regarding my website and filming problems. I did not have a good solicitor. He let me down and he didn't do my already flimsy case (due to lack of written evidence) any justice. However I learnt a lot from the experience;

- Not everyone is as honest as me - in fact some are willing to lie to a judge in a court room!

- There is no such thing as friends when it comes to business.

- People are full of false promises. I have been far too trusting taking people on their word.

- Get a clear written agreement for anything I am paying someone to do.

- Life isn't fair! :)

However I believe in karma - what goes around comes around!

Ugly

I stumbled across http://betedejour.blogspot.com/2008/01/30-year-old-virgin.html . I have just ordered the book Bete De Jour, The Diary of an Ugly Man and I'm thoroughly looking forward to reading it.

The title touched me, that someone would consider themselves ugly. It saddens me how shallow people are and how cruel people can be.

Don't get me wrong I do enjoy perks from willing guys when I know I am looking my best. For example my hairdresser has given me free products, and once let me rack up a bill of a couple of hundred quid whilst I sorted out a new credit card. I've had various help with my car and the guys have said 'don't worry about it' when I've asked what I owe. Whilst I appreciate these little extras I am concious that if I didn't look good then I wouldn't get them.

I can honestly say I don't call people ugly. In my opinion only ugly people use the word ugly, and when I use the word in this text it's not in relation to how they physically look, but more the person they are.

It's a sensitive thing for me because of the years of bullying I had for how I looked. Something reminded me of those days the other day....

I was parked up in my car I'd just arrived at a friends. It was when it was mega hot and admittedly I didn't look my best. I was sweaty, wearing no make up and I no doubt was quite red. A couple of guys cycled past me seeing the blonde hair from behind, and as they passed the window they looked in saw my sweaty face and said 'urrgh oh no'! Clearly they were disappointed not to see a flawless, made up blonde vixen. It was a little bruise to the old ego! Lol :)

Race for Life

Yesterday I walked my 5 K for cancer research. It was a beautiful day! After a rather embarrassing late start due to a touch of asthma (before the race!!) I got under way and the walk was fine. We all did a ten minute warm up before starting the walk. It was a great day for a great cause. Thanks so much to those of you who sponsored me. I raised over £400 :) XXXX

Its that time of year again... Big Brother...

Reality TV - well you're either a lover or a hater, and I'm a lover :) I'm fascinated with people and I'm interested how human beings interact and adapt to certain situations out of their comfort zone.

When you think of it humans are the most advanced and populated mammal in the world so we should all have a keen interest in the human race and you can really learn from peoples personalities. The fame hungry types that will 'do anything for money' I find interesting. Those of you haters will be thinking 'what a load of codswollop!' :))))

I think to enjoy these sorts of programmes you really need to be a 'people person' and have a certain amount of interest in psychology, which I do.

Here are my top reality programmes in no particular order ...

Wife Swap - whoever thought of this is a genius. They pair the couples perfectly!

Super Nanny - I love watching the children change and learn about respect. Jo is amazing.

The Apprentice - cut throat business and back stabbing everyone treading over whoever they need to to stay in the game. Fascinating!

Big Brother - every year I lose a little bit of interest as the producers try harder and harder to mess people up. Halfwit and Dogface... whatever next?! But I still watch it :) It's like a little experiment with caged mice!

Britain/America's got Talent - aside from all the rubbish (which always makes for good TV :) there are some very talented people on these shows, and of course there's sexy Simon! :)

Come Dine With me - cooking for a bunch of strangers, who could have known such a programme would be so enthralling?!

I'm a celebrity Get me out of Here - I respect anyone who goes on this programme, because I really couldn't eat the things they eat and do the things they do for any amount of money!

Hells Kitchen - Marco so mysterious when he tries to be all cryptic but very funny :)

Ramsey's Kitchen Nightmares - Ramsey is a joy to watch for me :) He's got sexier as he's gotten older. I admire all the celebrities that tell it like it is, as I am pretty much that sort of person myself.

You are What you eat - very educational and very much needed with the rise in obesity. People are too lazy nowadays!

10 years younger - the way this programme changes peoples lives is just fantastic!

PS before any of you think me too much of a saddo let me add - I am not so obsessed with these programmes that I stay in especially to watch them or record them if I miss them, but if I'm in and they're on, I'm watching :)

Nottingham escort - Dreams part 3

Simon Cowell, diamonds and rubies... now what the hell does that mean? Lol. He was supposed to be giving my friend a ring and she was assuming it would be diamonds but he gave her one with rubies and then took it back and gave her just a silver band, saying both the diamond rings and the ruby one was for someone else! OMG how random is that????

I did the accidentally on purpose fall on him so I could brush his leg! What a saddo :)))) And me and some other friends were laughing at my friend who thought she was getting a diamond ring whilst I was watching him fish this silver band out of a choice of rings.

I ended up with a silver ring with a diamond, but it just appeared on my finger and not from Simon Cowell boo hoo! :)

Funnily enough I didn't find any meaning for finding Simon Cowell pop up in my dream (too much Britain's got talent lol :) but I did find ....

Diamonds
To see diamonds in your dream, signifies the wholeness of the Self. You may be finding clarity in matters that have been clouding you. Alternatively, it represents vanity, conceit, and your unchanging or unyielding nature. You may be distancing yourself from others.

To receive diamond jewelry in your dream, signifies love. If you lose the diamond jewelry, then it indicates a lost in money or difficulty in your love relationship.

Ruby
To see a ruby in your dream, symbolizes passion, vitality and sexual desire. Be cautious in affairs of the heart as they may be fleeting.

Silver
To see silver in your dream, symbolizes the moon, intuition and the feminine aspects of yourself. It signifies tranquility and understated confidence.

Silver
Silver represents justice and purity. It is symbolic of some protective energy.