read your blog post of aug. 7. while i consider myself a positive person, i've also been shy & introverted at times. how do you keep a woman's initial interest if you're not a naturally boisterous or talkative person?

be interested and interesting. Genuine interest will keep a woman attentive, and then she's doing most of the talking :) It's one of the biggest mistakes men make, they are simply not interested enough in a woman; getting to know her and finding out what she's about. we can all be shy and introverted sometimes, it's nothing to concern yourself with - especially because you say you are only that way some of the time.

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Do you think couples speak too much in a relationship. Get themselves tied in knots cos of it. And get worried when they've nothing to say. When words aren't really what is required. Just being with each other in the situation is very often enough.

So sorry I have just seen I din't reply to this. I've just moved house so I'm still catching up with things :) no i think couples don't speak enough, and aren't clear with their communication. Signs/actions and words are all misread/misunderstood. Great book to read is the Five Love Languages :)

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a friend & i fancy each other & have talked about a relationship. she doesn't think she can be in a romantic relationship with me, though, because i watch & collect porn. is there a way to convince her i can set aside the porn for her without selling it?

say if you're with her you won't need any porn ;-p hide it well though, women can sniff it out :D if she finds it she will never trust you

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YOU JUST WOKE UP NAKED IN BED NEXT TO ME. Using only 3 words, what would you say to me? ...Note: If you comment, you must copy and and ask me the same question. So I comment on yours as well. Be a good sport. Play along :)

cup of tea ;-p

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you've been going out with someone for a short amount of time you like each other, but haven't had sex yet... every time you suggest dinner, a pub or music club to get to know her better, she suggests going dancing or partying... what to do?

is there equal physical attraction on both sides? How far have you gone with each other? are you sure that your intentions are clear and she's not thinking of you as a 'friend'?

There are some girls that abuse the generosity of guys that they know fancy them and will string them along when it suits them. If they need lifts, someone to hang out with, someone to take them out for drinks/food etc... Be careful that this isn't your situation.

She's calling the shots and you're doing whatever she wants to do - she sounds a bit selfish to me. Read my blog post about being the leader... and turn the tables, don't agree to go where she wants to go. You need to be assertive and pull back the reins.

http://www.datingadviceformen.co.uk/2011/08/dating-advice-for-men-be-the-leader/

Women/people in general don't respect people who are pushovers. You have a right to do things you want to do, and if she doesn't want to do them, find someone else. You will know if she is abusing your generosity if she refuses to do the things you want to do. It could just be that she's a party girl and that's who she is, so you either accept her for that or move on. Are you driving her to these parties? If so go back to my earlier comment above!

Also I think you will find this post relevant/interesting, as it lays out what women want...

http://www.datingadviceformen.co.uk/2011/07/dating-advice-best-piece-of-marketing-advice-forget-what-you-want-focus-on-what-value-you-can-give-to-others-relevant-to-dating-do-you-think/

I hope this helps :)

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I am dating a lady that I intially met as an escort. Shortly afterwards we started dating and she told me she loved me...Now I have fallen in love with her. What are your experiences and your suggestions for two people that are in love that initiallty met

I know of clients that have met their girlfriend/partners through escorting. Sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't. Most guys can't handle the girl still escorting. Usually they want them to stop escorting and that's when there's problems. Girls escorting generally like to earn their own money, and have a good standard of living, so they may find it hard to be a 'kept woman' so to speak, where they aren't escorting, but aren't earning their own money, so relying 100% on a man to provide for them. My advice would be to put no pressure on her to stop, either accept her as she is an an escort or walk away. She will stop in her own time, if/when she is ready to do so. It must be her choice.

Not knowing either of you, I can't really offer any personal advice, but I wish you all the very best, and I hope it works out for you. Do feel free to write if you have any more specific questions :)

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