Little Miss Independent....

The other day I was preparing for an outdoor concert with a friend. I donned my sexy pink wellies, jeans and a pink rain coat, my hair was the 'just got out of bed look' tousled and wavy and I had no make up on apart from some tinted moisturiser.

I went to wait at the bus stop for a bus to town and as I arrived an older gent was eyeing me up. I stood behind him uncomfortably away from his wandering eyes, but he looked back at me and sparked up conversation about the buses. I was friendly towards him. He asked where I was going, and then suggested walking further down the road to get the choice of 4 buses rather than just the two from where we were standing. I don't frequent buses so this was news to me. I walked down with him and he comented that I was getting some admiring glances from cars passing by. He didn't really ask anything about me until we got on the bus and he sat next to me. He asked if I was single and when I said I was he did a character analysis about me based on our brief conversation about buses and how I looked and it went like this ....

'You look like a free spirit. I reckon you never stay in one place for a long time. I think you like to travel. You look really independent. I bet you don't want to settle down and have kids.'

I was horrified that this was the impression I was giving with my none made up face and pink wellies.

It occurred to me that one of the reasons I am single is because I may be giving off the wrong vibes! So what do I have to do to look like I want to settle down? Dye my hair brown and start dressing frumpily? Lol :) I am independent but I have to be because I am single. However I'd love to be with someone and feel looked after and cared for.

It occurred to me that I do get stereo typed with the boobs and blond hair. However I never dress tartily, and only wear full make up if I am going out in the town for a night on the tiles - which isn't often nowadays! I'm quite a contridiction to this stereo type, but I like how I look and I'm not changing that for anyone! :)

Grooming tips for single men...

I was inspired by one of my regular single gents to compile this list... and btw no these do not all apply to him! Lol

If you think about what you like for a woman, then just apply the same to yourself for example - if you appreciate the smell of a woman who wears perfume then...

- Make sure YOU are always smelling fresh with aftershave or some sort of fragrance, but not too much! :)

-Keep all facial, nasal and ear hair trimmed.

- Don't think 'I don't have a girlfriend so I don't have the make the effort' because if you think like that you'll never get one! Unfortunately in this world looks do count. You don't have to be the best looking bloke but you do need to look like you look after yourself and take care and pride in your appearance.

- Make sure your hair (if you have it) and glasses (if you wear them) suit your face. If you're not sure, just ask. Go to a proper hairdressers and speak to a stylist, and an optician regarding glasses.

- Clothing is difficult for men, especially single ones. Men tend to go for 'safe' options which make them blend in, and depending on colours you can also make yourself look washed out. If you have greyish hair and pale skin, don't go for greyish clothes and dull browns because they will wash you out even more. Go for colours like light to mid blue or even navy. Noone expects men to be an expert in the field of clothing, but it depends how much you actually want to find a special lady. If you're not having any luck then you should at least make sure that your appearence is sorted before you move onto building confidence etc... because once you look the part, you will start to feel the part, then when you feel it it's easier to act it!

I know men don't like asking for anything but you need to get over it! Lol. Shops like House of Frazer all have personal shoppers available and it's a free service. If you book an appointment they will talk through any clothes you want to buy and help advise you on a new look. Don't say 'no' to everything they pick up. It's good to try things you wouldn't normally try - you will be surprised. Women are so good at shopping because we do ask advice and we do listen to what other people think, so we learn fast what suits us.

Look in mens magazines for ideas or take note of which celebrities styles you like. It's a good starting point if you get a personal shopper to take some ideas with you.

- Look tidy. I hate seeing slightly over weight men with oversized clothing all untucked. This makes you look bigger! The right sized shirt tucked in looks much nicer and will make you look trimmer! Just call me Gok Wan :))) hehe

- Stand up tall don't slouch and walk confidentally. This will be easier if you get yourself a style and you feel comfortable with what you are wearing.

- And don't forget the shoes women as you know are obsessed with shoes and we do take note of a mans shoes.

.... I guarentee if you take note of these tips women will start to take notice of you :)

Amber and Bea turn heads at Nottingham races!

Amber and I had a wonderful day at Nottingham Ladies day. We planned to go quite a few weeks in advance, but I'd been mega busy with various things and hadn't even decided what to wear. Amber is super organised and had arranged all her outfit in plenty of time. A week before I still had nothing to wear when I found out Amber was wearing a hat!!! So I had a mad panic to get an outfit together, complete with hat. I russled up a Cavalli flower print dress that had been hiding in my wardrobe, and then I went on an internet mission to track down hat hire in Nottingham.

I found a lovely lady whose house I went to on the Friday before to look at her collection and thankfully she found me just the hat! It cost me £20 to hire. Bargain!

We both had our barnets done in the morning, and after a long leisurely get ready we went for our pre-races lunch and champgne. The food was delicious and we washed it down with a chilled bottle of rose.

As soon as we arrived at the races we were approached by a photographer wanting to take our photo for a magazine, so we posed with our champagne in the sunshine :)

We bet on most of the races, and won just one race each. Amber and I betting when we are tipsy don't make a good team - remember the chips we left on the table in Vegas? :) Well Amber forgot to check her tickets until she saw me doing it as I put each next bet on, and thank goodness she started checking because she'd won!

Lots of people said we should be in the best dressed competition, but we hovvered around and didn't get noticed by whoever it was that was looking out. How rude! :)

We had such a fun day. It ended up with us sharing a taxi into Nottingham to go to a couple of bars before calling it a night.

My court case...

Unfortunately I lost my case in court regarding my website and filming problems. I did not have a good solicitor. He let me down and he didn't do my already flimsy case (due to lack of written evidence) any justice. However I learnt a lot from the experience;

- Not everyone is as honest as me - in fact some are willing to lie to a judge in a court room!

- There is no such thing as friends when it comes to business.

- People are full of false promises. I have been far too trusting taking people on their word.

- Get a clear written agreement for anything I am paying someone to do.

- Life isn't fair! :)

However I believe in karma - what goes around comes around!

Ugly

I stumbled across http://betedejour.blogspot.com/2008/01/30-year-old-virgin.html . I have just ordered the book Bete De Jour, The Diary of an Ugly Man and I'm thoroughly looking forward to reading it.

The title touched me, that someone would consider themselves ugly. It saddens me how shallow people are and how cruel people can be.

Don't get me wrong I do enjoy perks from willing guys when I know I am looking my best. For example my hairdresser has given me free products, and once let me rack up a bill of a couple of hundred quid whilst I sorted out a new credit card. I've had various help with my car and the guys have said 'don't worry about it' when I've asked what I owe. Whilst I appreciate these little extras I am concious that if I didn't look good then I wouldn't get them.

I can honestly say I don't call people ugly. In my opinion only ugly people use the word ugly, and when I use the word in this text it's not in relation to how they physically look, but more the person they are.

It's a sensitive thing for me because of the years of bullying I had for how I looked. Something reminded me of those days the other day....

I was parked up in my car I'd just arrived at a friends. It was when it was mega hot and admittedly I didn't look my best. I was sweaty, wearing no make up and I no doubt was quite red. A couple of guys cycled past me seeing the blonde hair from behind, and as they passed the window they looked in saw my sweaty face and said 'urrgh oh no'! Clearly they were disappointed not to see a flawless, made up blonde vixen. It was a little bruise to the old ego! Lol :)